Make The Approach Work...
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The Art Of Flirting |
Besides being fun, flirting can be an effective way to get to know someone. Just remember the words FLIRTS and what the letters represent and you'll be well on your way to mastering the art of flirting.
F is for Flattery |
| The fastest way to a person's heart is to find something you truly appreciate about how he or she looks or acts, however make sure the compliments are sincere. |
L is for listen |
| Get him to talk about what he really care about and listen. The most powerful aphrodisiac is your undivided attention. |
I is for interest |
| Find a common interest. Remember, similar tastes and interests are the best foundations for a good relationship. |
R is for being responsible |
| Be truthful, careful and clear about your interests and intentions. Don't hurt or lead anyone on or choose inappropriate flirting partners, such as your friend's boyfriend and girlfriend. |
T is for trusting |
| Trusting yourself and for being trustworthy, someone who can be counted on. |
S is for Smile |
| A winning smile is a sure way to make you feel good and make anyone feel relaxed in your company. |
What Are Some Of The Benefits of Flirting? |
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| • Help eliminate loneliness by enabling you to meet people. |
| • Exercise and expand your technique for meeting people. |
| • Heighten your appreciation for what you're doing and where you are right now and in your life in general. |
| • Boost your ego. |
| • Give you feedback about how you relate to others and come across. |
| • Help you make new friends. |
| • Activate your adrenaline and nervous system. When this body system is switched on, your blood flow increases, and that in turn makes you more alert and aroused, more able to concentrate and take action and more sensitive to touch. |
| • Be fun. |
Ask Intriguing Questions
What is most people's favourite topic? Themselves. So ask them to talk about themselves. You've got five W's to consider:
Who: who is your favourite actor/relative/friend?
What: what's your favourite thing to do?
Where: where is your favourite place to go?
When: when was the last time you treated yourself?
Why: why did you come here?
Researchers have estimated that more than half of communication comes form body language- gestures and movements that we make that reveal what we think or feel. So let your posture, facial expressions and eyes do the talking for you. Often one is not enough, so to send or interpret a message, combine several.
Eye Contact |
| Don't stare as this makes people uncomfortable. The most effective eye contact is where you glance, linger, look away, then reconnect- holding each others gaze for at least 60 percent of the total time you are together. |
Touch |
| Flirt by touching yourself lightly in a nonsexual, safe way, to be suggestive. Touch yourself wherever you would like to focus attention. |
Body Positioning |
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| Read and interpret caution or unwelcome signs if the body and head are turned away. Crossed arms could mean he's nervous or closed off. Uncross arms and see how much more open- and vulnerable it feels. Better to do that if you want to give the message you're more approachable. Lean in, extend a hand, nod, or puff out your chest or tilt your hips to show interest. Vigorous leg-shaking is a sign of nervousness, while slight movements are stimulating. Also, if someone's hands or mouth are hidden, he may be hiding something. |
Body Boundaries |
| Respect each others person space, usually about an arm's length. Test the waters: wait to see if she gives you clues to come closer (body touches, smiles, open body position). Also give clues yourself. Move closer to show you're interested and then withdraw to give her "space" to advance and to show return interest. |
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