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Dating Time Out |
Taking A Needed Break
Why Take A Time Out From Dating?
Dating takes energy. You put yourself on the line. You muster up the guts to ask someone out, or you go out and have to be on your best behaviour. Then there's the aftermath; you can feel great if it works out well, but more often than not, you end up confused, wondering about the future, or worse yet, frustrated and fed up.
Then there are times when you just don't have time or interest to date. Or you feel that things just aren't working out right now and you want to step aside and regroup.
Some advice to you- give yourself a well needed break from dating to regain your physical as well as mental strength. You don't have to date if you don't want to.
Instead of thinking that you're stepping out of the game for awhile because of failure to find anyone you like, think of it as a positive choice. By embracing a "no dating for now" stance, you can take time to enjoy other experiences and find out more about yourself. |
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You don't have to decide exactly how long you will be having a break for. Trust that you will naturally come around when the time is right for you. Deciding ahead of time only puts the very pressure on you that you are trying to avoid in the first place.
Reasons That You Might Need Some Time Out Include:
| You're frustrated with dates that haven't worked out and feel discouraged. |
| You've got lots of other things on your mind. |
| You feel run down and tired. |
| You have a family crisis you have to deal with. |
| You were hurt by someone and need some time to recover. |
| You've shifted your priorities. |
| You're fed up with peer pressure to date. |
| You've just broken up with someone and you don't want to throw yourself into dating on the rebound. |
The Benefits Of Time Out:
Make your own choices about the role of dating in your life at any particular time and trust that this is right for you then, and that you may make another decision at another time.
| Taking a dating time-out gives you time to focus on other aspects of your life. |
| It's an opportunity to discover new strengths and independence. |
| You can approach relationships with the intention of building friendship, which is the best foundation for a good, lasting relationship anyway. |
| You can get emotional distance from any "bad" experiences so you start afresh in a better frame of mind. |
| You put yourself in the best frame of mind, which may draw someone to you unexpectedly. |
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